My Ancestry DNA results…

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My Ancestry DNA results came in.
Just as I suspected, my great great grandfather
was a monarch butterfly.
Much of who I am is still wriggling under a stone.
I am part larva, but part hummingbird too.
There is dinosaur tar in my bone marrow.
My golden hair sprang out of a meadow in Palestine.
Genghis Khan is my fourth cousin,
but I didn’t get his dimples.
My loins are loaded with banyan seeds from Sri Lanka,
but I descended from Ravanna, not Ram.
My uncle is a mastodon.
There are traces of white people in my saliva.
3.7 billion years ago I swirled in golden dust,
dreaming of a planet overgrown with lingams and yonis.
More recently, say 60,000 B.C.
I walked on hairy paws across a land bridge
joining Sweden to Botswana.
I am the bastard of the sun and moon.
I can no longer hide my heritage of raindrops and cougar scat.
I am made of your grandmother’s tears.
You conquered rival tribesmen of your own color,
chained them together, marched them naked to the coast,
and sold them to colonials from Savannah.
I was that brother you sold, I was the slave trader,
I was the chain.
Admit it, you have wings, vast and golden,
like mine, like mine.
You have sweat, black and salty,
like mine, like mine.
You have secrets silently singing in your blood,
like mine, like mine.
Don’t pretend that earth is not one family.
Don’t pretend we never hung from the same branch.
Don’t pretend we don’t ripen on each other’s breath.
Don’t pretend we didn’t come here to forgive.

~ Fred LaMotte ~


I’m a DOULA!

I completed my training with Roots of Labor Birth Collective & Aurora Birth Journey and graduated today!

I am so so so thrilled and excited to be finally embodying this dream of so many years.

I’ll share some pictures and video of my graduation soon. I just needed to come on here and make the official announcement! Woohoo!


You’d think that after coming back from a two month trip that, (to be super real, wasn’t all a barrel of laughs although it was incredibly stupendous, ha!), we’d be longing for some down time to just chill and revel in home life and in a way, I think we all expected that.

But then we got back here and our housing plans fell through. So we’ve been rethinking everything. And one of the things we’ve noticed is that we’re all eager to get back on the road!

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There’s so much planet to check out! I’m constantly day dreaming about roadtripping across the continent and learning Spanish!

What about you? Are you wanderlusting or are you nesting?

I wish

ajira darch photographer black brown woman africanI wish I’d just started blogging (consistently) back when I first thought of it. I wish I’d stuck with it.

I wish I could compile all the random blogs I’ve created here, there and everywhere into one place where I could read them all, chronologically and in order.

I wish I wasn’t always so limited by my fears. Especially my fears about the reactions of others.

I wish I didn’t use so many absolutes in my thinking. I’m not always limited by my fears. Just frequently.

I wish I wasn’t so frightened of failing that I sometimes choose not to try rather than risk falling flat on my face. Good thing my word this year is BOLD!

I wish that fear wasn’t subconscious, so I would realise sooner what my real reason for saying no was. And then I could be bold instead.

I wish I wasn’t in pain all the time. Having a chronic pain condition sucks.

I wish I had more money. I’ve been sort of okay with not having much money for most of my life but now I’m feeling so restricted by the lack of it right now that it’s annoying.

I wish to have health, prosperity and abundance.
I wish for enough.

We’re housesitting!

hello gorgeous!

On to a new adventure… we came back from our travels to find that our housing plans for our return to the Bay Area had fallen through. It was super disappointing and a little scary at first but you know nothing keeps me down. Not for long.


So we started housesitting and we’ve decided we’d like to keep doing it!! Yay for all you travelers out there who need someone to look after your home and pets! It’s a great way to continue exploring the Bay Area (which I’m totally jazzed about) and also a great way for us to save some mulah (which C is totally jazzed about) while we figure out our next traveling plans.

So far we’ve taken care of a beautiful family home with a dog and two cats in Oakland, and now we’re taking care of a sophisticated spot in the city! It’s really fun to be back in San Francisco, where C and I first met and started our life together. Now we get to show the kiddos some of our favourite old haunts!

So, me lovelies! If you or anyone you know needs their home or pets taken care of, drop us an email! We’d love to connect with you and see if we’re a good fit!



We’re on the road!

Hello stranger! Sorry for the silence… We’ve been traveling since the end of May and it’s been amazing!!

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Here we are at the airport, about to head off on this fantastic adventure!

I’ve been wanting to bring the whole family home to the continent (my continent – Africa) for ages and it’s brilliant to finally be doing it! We were in Tanzania first for three weeks but just couldn’t get it together to find reliable internet access. I considered writing some drafts to post once we got access, but somehow found other ways to keep myself occupied…

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It’s been incredible, to say the least, and I promise to share photos and stories as soon as possible! There’s lots to get through.

Now we’re in South Africa and it’s cold but awesome! There’s lots more to share from here too!


Stay tuned! If you can’t bear to wait for my next post here, find me on instagram, facebook and twitter!